conflict

Five Hacks for Managing Your Anger in Conflict

Five Hacks for Managing Your Anger in Conflict

A client recently asked me for some strategies to engage in conflict without appearing angry.  As I’ve said in previous articles, it’s no secret that most people fear conflict and will go to great lengths to avoid it.  Managing our anger can be challenging at times.  Most people either become defensive or worse, they’re boiling internally while trying to appear calm.  Skilled mediators develop practical strategies to avoid being pulled into the emotional whirlpool of our clients’ conflicts.  

Build Your Resilience in Conflict: Three Proven Strategies

Build Your Resilience in Conflict:  Three Proven Strategies

Very few of us engage in conflicts with confidence and ease.  In fact, most people fear conflict. Conflict avoiders are all around us. So are conflict magnets, or people who seem to thrive on drama and conflict. They don’t stir things up because they enjoy conflict. Typically, they’re not skilled at engaging appropriately in conflict, and internal triggers fuel actions that inflame conflicts. Conflict isn’t typically in anyone’s comfort zone, but there are strategies to help us be more resilient in conflicts.

10 Lessons on School Violence Learned While Pursuing World Peace

10 Lessons on School Violence Learned While Pursuing World Peace

In my early 20s, I wasn’t interested in school violence prevention.  I had big ideas about contributing to world peace. After serving in the Peace Corps, I worked on a Master’s in international development, focused on conflict resolution. This was in the early 90s, before “Columbine” was associated with a high school massacre. An internship in the heart of America changed my worldview.