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3 Tips for Happier Holidays from a Mediator's Playbook

3 Tips for Happier Holidays from a Mediator's Playbook

Jingles may wish us happy holidays, but commercials and social media, by design, influence how we bedeck our homes, spend our money, measure happiness and practice traditions around holidays.  It can be overwhelming.

If we succumb to all the pressures buzzing around us, the reality is this: the main focus of the holidays is wiped out by stress, misunderstanding and conflict.  Here are a few personal stories as well as tips from my 20+ years as a mediator on how to avoid common pitfalls.

In Conflicts, Shifts Happen

In Conflicts, Shifts Happen

A couple once relayed a funny story to me that confirmed the importance a simple shift in perspective can play in transforming a conflict.  After decades of marriage, something happened that shed light on an ongoing battle between them.  With a new look at the same old issues, their conflict ended.